Ted talk class: Your body language shapes who you are

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Notes:

Body Language = non-verbal communications
Can we change our body language to change our own behavior? Yes. Your mind can change your body; your body can change your mind.
“Power” hormones are Cortisol (stress), Testosterone (assertiveness)
Two minutes in a power pose can change your hormones levels accordingly.
“Fake it till you make it.” (saying) => Fake it until you become it. (author’s version)
How?  Do two-minute exercises in a power pose in private and change your life.

 

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Lee Wright 9:01 PM
Hold your horses. (don’t be in a rush)
What is the talk about?
Sitting in a power position can make you feel powerful and vice versa.

leyla eroğlu 9:03 PM
Hello Bashayer; nice to meet you.

Lee Wright 9:03 PM
Very good description, Bashayer.
They did measure it!
take a pose, “strike” a pose
Tone of voice is a “verbal” communication of sorts.
Using your body language to “talk” to yourself.
insecure
fake it till you make it
When you need to be confident, strike a power pose for a minute or two.
Change your self-perception.

leyla eroğlu 9:09 PM
agree
but to policemen :NO

Lee Wright 9:10 PM
Yes, to authority figures, look nonthreatening.

leyla eroğlu 9:10 PM
agree

Lee Wright 9:10 PM
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leyla eroğlu 9:11 PM
agree
I usually try to pretend I need help

Lee Wright 9:11 PM
Woman can appear helpless and get lots of sympathy immediately. It’s not fair for men.

leyla eroğlu 9:12 PM
🙂

me 9:12 PM
Speaker said:
” judgments of political candidates’ faces in just one second predict 70 percent of U.S. Senate and gubernatorial race outcomes”
What does it mean, can you explain?

Lee Wright 9:14 PM
It’s absurd.
That’s why BIll Clinton was popular – that omnipresent smile (makes me sick to look at it because I know it’s insincere).
Politicians are trained in body language to deceive the public.

leyla eroğlu 9:15 PM
yes

Lee Wright 9:15 PM
Can a one-second impression make up your mind when voting for a candidate?

leyla eroğlu 9:16 PM
yes

Lee Wright 9:17 PM
So interview questions and responses and resume content are irrelevant to the hiring process. Only your body language matters. Seems like a ridiculous process.
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I try to judge people by what they say and do.
That’s the point. Body language is EASY to fake.
Authoritarian attitude ticks me off.
POS chur
dominant, submissive

me 9:28 PM
1. What is dominant posture ? What is opposite?

Lee Wright 9:28 PM
bold, timid
What is a dominant posture?
What is a submissive posture?

leyla eroğlu 9:28 PM
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Lee Wright 9:29 PM
Dogs are a study in body language. 🙂
Sitting at the front of a class vs. at the back of a class.
I have heard that when faced with a bear, you should spread your arms and legs to appear larger.
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leyla eroğlu 9:32 PM
wow

Lee Wright 9:33 PM
Only one “pack leader”.
Bullies pick on submissive body language.

me 9:36 PM
1. So, the whole point of this lecture is that YOU can change YOUR behavior to become a WINNER more often in life. What is the technique you must practice to do this?

Lee Wright 9:36 PM
#6 in the notes.

leyla eroğlu 9:37 PM
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Lee Wright 9:37 PM
Older => more confident
More reading => more confident
repels you
tone of voice
eye contact
handshake style
hand on top, strength of squeeze
Who enters the door first?

leyla eroğlu 9:40 PM
yesss
handshake style : yesss

Lee Wright 9:40 PM
silent movies (no sound)

leyla eroğlu 9:41 PM
no

Lee Wright 9:41 PM
Head shakes are opposite meaning in some cultures.
In an office, don’t touch anyone else, especially a woman.
an invasion of privacy
they entered into your “personal space”

leyla eroğlu 9:43 PM
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Lee Wright 9:43 PM
limp handshake
no squeeze
like a rag
firm handshake
In US, we don’t touch strangers
Handshake at most.
Men don’t kiss men.

leyla eroğlu 9:45 PM
Lee I know that
Here men kiss men

Lee Wright 9:46 PM
Handshake = acknowledgement of each other and general show of respect
High five
in US is handshake in Russia

leyla eroğlu 9:46 PM
Q

Lee Wright 9:47 PM
politicians and PR people use body language more
Actors may need to “fake” body language for their part.
role

leyla eroğlu 9:48 PM
yes
yess

Lee Wright 9:48 PM
Service personnel need to appear open and kind and helpful.
Con men are VERY good at body language (fake).
t
In US, boss goes FIRST.

leyla eroğlu 9:52 PM
the same
the old people / the head teachers / your parents…go first

Lee Wright 9:53 PM
Women go first => chivlary/politeness, not power play (or is it?)

leyla eroğlu 9:53 PM
yesss

Lee Wright 9:53 PM
t
nod = yes, shake = no

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